In reality, the first time people have any kind of sex is often a lot like the first time we do anything new: This occurs especially if the opening in the hymen is small or there is pain with insertion. How are these robbing young people of their bodily autonomy? Any girl who has her period can use a tampon. Some of those conceptualizations are problematic for various reasons.
Most people agree that a virgin is someone who has never had sex with a partner.
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I also am completely supportive of anyone deciding, before, during or after, that any given sexual experience or lack thereof , activity or scenario has a particular value to them. In a word, I know too much, and what I know sucks. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor. I want to talk about that perfect you think everyone wants the first time to be. None of us come into this life knowing all these is to know, or done with our learning at birth: I want a do-over. Evidence-based journalism is the foundation of democracy.