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Inside-Out Healing: Transforming Your Life Through The Power of Presence – an interview with Dr. Richard Moss

Healing Inside-Out: Transforming Your Life Through The Power of Presence is the latest book of author and Dr. Richard Moss. Author, Life Coach, BPD/Mental Health and Self Improvement Coach, A.J. Mahari, host of the Psyche Whisperer Radio Show interviewed Dr. Richard Moss on Monday June 13th at 4pm Eastern. Dr. Moss has now written 6 books and his previous book, a fantastic and highly illuminating one, is called, The Mandala of Being – Discovering The Power of Awareness is one I’d also highly recommend. I learned so much from reading that book as well and so too can you.

The work of Richard Moss is about being radically alive. Radical means being fully embodied and authentic. Your mind is focused and spacious, your body is ready and relaxed.

You learn how to consistently return to the present moment free from thoughts that create emotional suffering, and able to face even the most difficult feelings in a healthy and productive way.

All the longer programs take place in natural and near-wilderness settings because Nature is the best mirror for the depths of the soul.

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Richard Moss is internationally respected as a visionary thinker, teacher and author of six books on transformation, self-healing, and the art of conscious living. More than 30 years ago, he left the practice of medicine after a life-changing realization to dedicate his life to help others realize their multidimensional nature and achieve self-mastery. His teaching bridges science, psychology, energy medicine, and spiritual/awareness practices. He is most well known for the deep experiential nature of his work where people learn holistically with their mind, body, and feelings.

His philosophy is entirely pragmatic: work on consciousness must alleviate human suffering and address the root causes of why and how we create so much conflict in ourselves and our world.

His books include: The I That is We (1981), How Shall I Live (1985), The Black Butterfly: An Invitation to Radical Aliveness (1986), The Second Miracle: Intimacy, Spirituality, and Conscious Relationships (1995), all published by Celestial Arts, Words That Shine Both Ways (self-published in 1997), The Mandala of Being: Discovering the Power of Awareness, published by New World Library, 2007 . His newest book is Inside-Out Healing: Transforming Your Life Through the Power of Presence published February 2011, Hay House. His works have been translated into Spanish, French, German, Romanian, Russian, Portugese and Danish and have sold more than 200,000 copies worldwide.

For over thirty years Dr. Moss has taught in North America, South America, Europe and Australia. He has been interviewed in magazines and newspapers worldwide, and has presented at numerous conferences and at such institutions as Harvard University, Stanford University, University of Chicago Medical School, U.C.L.A., U.C. Berkeley, American University, Washington DC, Georgetown University, and John F. Kennedy University.

Richard Moss Seminars organizes and coordinates the conferences, talks, and seminars taught by Dr. Moss, as well as producing all of his audio and video materials. Three Mountain Foundation, a California not-for-profit charity, was founded in 1984 to support Richard’s work by providing scholarships and interest free loans to individuals in financial need who wish to attend his seminars.

Richard lives in Ojai, CA and has three grown step-children.


Fear, Anxiety, and Depression – Author Lucinda Basset has the “Solution”

A.J. Mahari, host of the Psyche Whisperer Radio Show, interviewed, Lucinda Bassett, Founder of The Midwest Center For Stress and Anxiety. Lucinda Bassett is a nationally acclaimed motivational speaker and best-selling author. Her latest book is, “The Solution – Conquer Your Fear, Control Your Future.” Her life-changing techniques have been shared with a variety of major corporations such as AT&T, and McDonald’s, and professional associations such as LPGA and the AIDS Foundation, as well as many educational institutions. She has appeared on hundreds of national radio and television programs including Oprah, The View, Live with Regis and Kelly, and Robert Schuller’s Hour of Power. Bassett and her emotional wellness solutions have been featured in a variety of high-profile publications including Health, Family Circle, Cosmopolitan, and the Journal of Clinical Psychology.

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The Solution

Thanks to this new program by best-selling self-help author Lucinda Bassett, it’s possible to do a life-changing emotional makeover in only 21days. Her process-oriented approach to dealing with stress and anxiety covers everything from money to health to relationships. Bassett shows readers how to go from fearful to focused; how to alleviate insecurity and feel confident about the future; and how to transform depression and anxiety into hope, happiness, and peace of mind. She offers a positive action plan that turns every challenge into an opportunity, and even helps relieve stress-induced exhaustion and poor health.

So even if you can’t change what’s happening around you… you CAN change what’s happening inside of you, thanks to this empowering new solution.


Humanizing Psychiatrists – Toward a Humane Psychiatry Interview with Author Dr. Niall McLaren M.D.

“Humanizing Psychiatrists – Toward A Humane Psychiatry” is Dr. Niall McLaren’s latest book. It is his third book and a follow up to the first two, “Humanizing Madness” and “Humanizing Psychiatry”. Dr. McLaren is a psychiatrist from Australia who is on his own crusade to educate people about what he calls, “psychiatry unleashed” in reference to biopsychiatry – the Pharma-motivated pseudo-science of mental illness as a “brain disorder”. In this second interview with Dr. McLaren  Life and Mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari, host of the Psyche Whisperer Radio Show talks some more about the state of psychiatry today along with Dr. McLaren’s latest book.

Dr. McLaren is a critic of psychiatry, his own profession, but he is not anti-psychiatry. He questions much of what is going on in psychiatry today – the biopsychiatric model of psychiatry – and in his books he puts forward his own model of a more humane psychiatry.

Dr. Niall McLaren, who prefers to be called Jock, has been an M.D. and practicing psychiatrist since 1977. Since then, he has undertaken a far-reaching research program, some of which has previously been published. He has also extensively studied philosophy. For six years, while working in the Kimberley Region of Western Australia, he was the world’s most isolated psychiatrist. He is married with two children and lives in a tropical house hidden in the bush near Darwin, Australia.

 Dr. McLaren’s website can be found at

Dr. McLaren describes his work this way on his YouTube Channel:

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“I write philosophical papers on the status of psychiatry and have now published three books which summarise my work. These show that modern psychiatry does not have a rational basis and therefore fails as a science. It is the only medical specialty that doesn’t have a rational model of the nature of the disorders it treats.
I’ve also shown how a proper model of mental disorder should be assembled, starting with a partial resolution of the mind-body problem. This leads to a rational model of mental disorder, and thence to forms of treatment.
My work shows that biological psychiatry is not scientific and never can be. This includes modern drug management, the emphasis on the physical and chemical state of the brain, as well as the entire system of classification of mental disorders in DSM-IV and will soon appear in DSM-5.
Strangely enough, my colleagues don’t like being told they are not practicing a scientific form of psychiatry. I don’t understand that. Science progresses by criticising the prevailing model, but orthodox psychiatry does its best to suppress critical work.”

Does Psychiatry have a future?

“Assailed from many directions, under constant attack for its reliance on “a drug for all problems” and increasingly unable to attract bright new trainees, the specialty is showing every sign of terminal decline. The reason is simple: modern psychiatry has no formal model of mental disorder to guide its daily practice, teaching and research. Unfortunately, the orthodox psychiatrists who control this most conservative profession are utterly antagonistic to criticism. Despite the evidence, they maintain a blind faith that “science will deliver the goods” by a biological examination of the brain.

Humanizing Psychiatry argues that their faith is entirely misplaced and is contributing to the destruction of an essential part of civilized life, the fair and equitable treatment of people with mental disorders. Author Niall McLaren offers a rational model of mental disorder within the framework of a molecular resolution of the mind-body problem. Fully developed, this model will have revolutionary consequences for psychiatry–and the mentally-afflicted.” – Irene Watson on Author’s Den

Visit Dr. McLaren’s YouTube Channel to watch parts 3 and 4 of this video lecture series.


Worry, Anxiety, Fear? Keep Calm and Carry On – Interview with Dr. Mark A. Reinecke, Ph.D.

Do you worry a lot? Do you find yourself experiencing increasing anxiety? Are you fearful? Do you have negative worry thoughts that create anxiety and fear in your life? Please join Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, on Monday October 25th, at 7pm EST, for an interview with Dr. Mark A. Reinecke, Ph.D., author of the book, “Little Ways to Keep Calm and Carry On – Twenty Lessons for Managing Worry, Anxiety, and Fear” on the Psyche Whisperer Radio Show

This interview is now available in our archives on and you can listen to it right here on this page now.

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Dr. Reinecke, author of “Litte Ways To Keep Calm and Carry On – Twenty Lessons for Managing worry, anxiety, and Fear” is Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences and Chief of the Division of Psychology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine. His research and clinical interests center on understanding and treating depression and suicide among children and adolescents. He is widely published, and has authored or edited eight books including Cognitive Therapy Across the Lifespan, Comparative Treatments of Depression, Cognitive Therapy with Children and Adolescents, Personality Disorders in Children and Adolescents. 

Dr. Mark Reinecke is a clinical psychologist at Northwestern Memorial Hospital. His clinical interests include cognitive-behavioral therapy, as well as anxiety, panic and obsessive-compulsive disorders. Dr. Reinecke earned his doctorate from Purdue University, and he is board-certified in clinical psychology.

He is a distinguished fellow and past president of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy, a diplomat of the American Board of Professional Psychology, and a fellow of the American Psychological Association and the Association for Psychological Science. He lives in Chicago, IL.


This is a very useful, practical, and non-stigmatizing helpful book about keeping calm versus being in a state of anxiety, worry, and/or fear. The lesson in this book and how they are conveyed in layman’s terms not only normalize the experience of anxiety, worry, and fear, but also give you understandable information about how you can change your way of thinking and your way or perceiving and experiencing your thoughts and life so that you can “Keep Calm and Carry On”. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to more effectively manage the challenges of worry, anxiety, and/or fear. We live in stressful times and worry is increasingly becoming a part of everyday life but it doesn’t have to be as Dr. Mark A Reinecke points out in this book that delivers much-needed information in a way that won’t overwhelm you. – Life and Mental Health Coach,  A.J. Mahari



Table of Contents


About the title


Lesson 1 Anxiety: It Works

Lesson 2 The Big “A”

Lesson 3 We Overestimate Risk When We’re Afraid

Lesson 4 The Future Is Uncertain

Lesson 5 Influence and Control

Lesson 6 You Have the Power to Control Your Anxiety

Lesson 7 Perfect Solutions Don’t Exist

Lesson 8 Sometimes You Can Take Control of Bad Situations—but Sometimes Not

Lesson 9 Recurring, Intrusive Thoughts Are Normal; It’s the Meaning We Attach to Them That Counts

Lesson 10 Dwelling on Problems Impairs Your Ability to Cope

Lesson 11 Worrying Is Highly Overrated

Lesson 12 Don’t Magnify the Importance of Your Physical Sensations

Lesson 13 It’s Time to Relax

Lesson 14 Evaluate Your Thoughts and Make Them Account for Themselves

Lesson 15 Changing Your Thoughts

Lesson 16 When You’re Worried or Anxious, Avoiding Problems Is Among the Worst Things You Can Do

Lesson 17 Social Anxiety: Worrying Too Much About What Others Think

Lesson 18 What’s Really on Your Mind?

Lesson 19 Flow with the Current of Life

Lesson 20 Live Wisely

Epilogue: A Final Note

Resources for Readers




Worrying is a national epidemic, so if you feel anxious and uncertain, you’re not alone. But there’s good news! Thanks to researchers and clinicians, this subject is well understood. Here it is: a quick, compact read that tells you what you need to know to understand anxiety and deal with it constructively. This little book presents the most important findings from empirical research in cognitive behavioral therapy and affective neuroscience in a concise way that’s easy to grasp. It tells you what you need to know and do. Based on recent work in empirically supported anxiety treatments, this easy-to-read guide will help you deal with an emotion that can completely unravel your day. 

Think of this book as a tool that teaches you how to filter your thoughts in ways that will change both how you feel and how you behave. Despite the simplicity of the techniques, they produce powerful results. 

Read each lesson in sequence. Some will resonate with you more than others, but each lesson allows you to build your own customized “anxiety management toolbox.” 

As you read this book, consider taking some time to write your thoughts. Put pen to paper and note how you might apply the various lessons in your life. This is your own personal journey—an opportunity to learn to think, feel, and behave differently. You might think of your notes as a personal journal or a private blog. Keeping a journal is entirely optional, but writing notes and reflecting on new information will not only aid your retention but also help you organize the material in your mind and integrate it with your existing knowledge. It may make for a richer and more useful experience, and it should only take a few minutes. Give it a try. 

Many of the lessons conclude with recommendations for action, under the headings “Now Ask Yourself…” and “What You Need to Do.” For these activities, you’ll need a notebook or at least a few blank sheets of paper. Though brief, these exercises can be quite powerful. Applying daily what you’ve learned can accelerate the process, increasing your likelihood of making progress and maintaining your gains. These are the tools that will help you master your worry, anxiety, and fear. Clinicians often refer to them as “homework,” but this isn’t homework in the academic sense. Rather, it’s the notion that though insight alone—what we learn—may not bring about changes in emotions or behavior, we can introduce change by acting on our knowledge and insight. You’ll want to apply this insight in your day-to-day life, and these exercises are an opportunity to do just that. 

Know this: these approaches work. I’ve seen them work with my clients. More importantly, dozens of controlled studies completed at clinics and research centers around the world support the approaches described in this book. The result? Using them can help you have a better day—one where you are more productive, have a greater sense of control, and manage whatever life throws your way by using solutions rather than letting worry take your brain hostage. A small book is no substitute for professional care, of course. If you are experiencing more severe anxiety, or thoughts of death or suicide, you’ll want to work with an experienced mental health specialist; you’ll find Internet resources at the end of the book. 

Don’t underestimate the power of worry, anxiety, and fear. When appropriate, they can play a positive, even essential, role in your life. However, they can also be disruptive and disabling. The bottom line is that you don’t have to be a victim of these unpleasant emotions. You can control how you live your day and what role anxiety plays, and this little guide will show you how. 

Let’s get on with it.” 

Source: New Harbinger Publications Inc.



“He’s a Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Northwestern University and an expert on anxiety. He’s managed to put all of his expertise into a cute, handy little guidebook for everyday life. Who doesn’t need a little extra help to keep calm in these stress-filled times?


‘No worries.’ It’s the new catch phrase. 

As if. 

Everybody worries. It doesn’t mean you need a shrink. But every once in awhile, when the stress level gets a bit too high, you might wish you had a little coach sitting on your shoulder to give you some tips on how to calm yourself down.” 

Source: Just The Bookstore 


“First featured on a British poster produced during World War II, ‘Keep calm and carry on’ has become the mantra of millions—but exactly how to keep calm remains a difficult question for most of us. 

The next time you are stressed by pressures at work, overwhelmed by life’s challenges, or panicked by problems that seem unsolvable, reach for this book. In Little Ways to Keep Calm and Carry On, you’ll find twenty short yet powerful lessons and anxiety-reducing techniques that will help you move past stressful moments with grace. Each lesson is so simple to learn and practice, you’ll find that this pocket guide is all you really need whenever you need a little help keeping calm. 

A gem of a resource for anyone who struggles with anxiety or worry.”

<—Denise D. Davis, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and assistant director of clinical training at Vanderbilt University in Nashville, TN – from the New Harbinger Publications Inc. 


Interview with Kristen Moeller – Waiting For Jack – Confessions of a Self Help Junkie

Have you been waiting for something outside of yourself to change your life? Have you tried all the self help books and philosophies around and still haven’t found the change that you want and/or need in your life? Is it time for you to “disrupt the ordinary” as Kristen says? Life Coach, author, and radio show host, A.J. Mahari interviewed Kristen Moeller, Life Coach, Speaker, host of her own radio show “What are you waiting for?” on and author of the book, “Waiting For Jack – Confessions of a Self Help Junkie” on Friday October 1, 2010 at 2pm EST on her blogtalkradio show, The Psyche Whisperer

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In her book, Waiting For Jack, Kristen Moeller turns conventional self-help concepts upside down, asking people to stop eternal searching for outside answers and change their lives from the sideline to front line. (Chicken Soup for the Soul© and The Success Principles) Moeller nearly put her life on hold waiting for his connection to keep her inspiration alive. 

WAITING FOR JACK Confessions of a Self-Help Junkie: How to Stop Waiting and Start Living Your Life

Too many people lose big chapters of their life “waiting for Jack.” No, that’s not meant to represent Mr. Right, but rather a whole slate of perceived answers to everyone’s eternal search to make their lives better, according to renowned life coach and speaker, Kristen Moeller. Part memoir and part how-to guide, this life-affirming narrative turns “personal fix-it” conventions upside down.

The symbolism of waiting for this particular Jack grew from Moeller’s own life experiences, of her constant search for meaningful change – being a seeker and never a finder herself. Following one memorable exchange, where she boldly introduces herself to renowned author and speaker Jack Canfield.

She describes that life-changing moment when it became clear that for her, the figurative “Jack” had come to represent all the desires people wait for — more money, romance, children, retirement, even life’s purpose – and that the truest answers were never going to come from Jack, but rather from inside herself.

Moeller recognized, as she urges readers to do through real life examples, that people need to free themselves from the “self-help treadmill” and unleash their own inner ability to create lives of greater fulfillment.

Laced on the one hand with self-deprecating humor and on the other with respect for individual dignity, Waiting For Jack  is uncommonly appealing. It inspires readers to end the eternal search for something outside themselves, stop the endless WAITING, and finally live life more fully by falling in love with their own humanity.

Moeller’s own life transformation offers real-life instruction in how people caught in a “bottomless quest for self-help” can stop the waiting and hoping for direction from others and move forward to embrace their own life every day in a “fierce disruption of the ordinary.”

In an authentic, intelligent voice, Moeller describes her specific life challenges — years filled with addictions from severe eating disorders and alcohol to evolving as a “self-help junkie”— before creating a successful career as life coach, speaker and author, among other accomplishments.

Her insightful, clear-eyed narrative describes how she came to recognize the decisions and actions that limit who we become. She writes, “Paradoxically, we wait and try to get somewhere at the same time—and that somewhere is anywhere but here, in the moment, in the now. We believe when we get there or have that, we will possess eternal happiness. We look for the magic pill. But what if we’ve already swallowed it? What if we were born with it? What if we are it?”

It is with this motivation, and liberal doses of humor, that Moeller succeeds in motivating readers to think and act for themselves, while offering principles by which they can assess their own lives, avoid perpetual waiting and commit to realizing a life that, as Moeller puts it, “…is as good as we choose it to be at any moment.”

Thematically, Moeller brings the mythical Jack full circle with tongue-in-cheek chapter headings such as Jack of All Trades, Master of None; Jack and the Beanstalk; Jack of Hearts; Jack and Jill Went Up the Hill; Jack in the Box; Jackpot; and even Jackass. Moeller details how effectively the practice of looking within can end the cycle of waiting and create real change, with the added bonus of how much better one can feel about themselves.



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“Kristen Moeller’s ability to tap into one of the great longings of human-kind—that somehow what we’ve got now is never enough—is riveting. I love her courage in tackling this big subject, the intimacy of her voice (she’s been there and we know it!), and her far-reaching wisdom. Thanks, Kristen, for putting our longing into words and helping us navigate our way through it. I’m done ‘waiting’!” – Suzanne Falter-Barns, author of How Much Joy Can You Stand –

“Kristen’s simply and beautifully described self-journey inspires a profound, quiet, deeply central truth about who we are and how to embrace our ‘gift.’ Living up to her mission—‘fiercely disrupting the ordinary’—Kristen takes readers on our own deeply personal journey of realization … that in this very moment, we are more than we could ever hope to need, want, or be in this life. She expresses with exquisite clarity not only the richness that is available to each of us if we only choose to consciously create our own life each day, but offers a clear recipe for achieving extraordinary meaning and fulfillment. Be prepared to feel inspired, engage with your true passions, and find new ways to live your humanity beginning today.” – Gary Goldstein, movie producer (Pretty Woman), author, speaker, and coach –


Kristen first discovered her passion for personal development in 1989 after recovering from an eating disorder and addiction. After years of struggling with low self-esteem, she realized that recovery and joy is possible.

Determined to provide this for others, Kristen immersed herself in the field of personal growth, earning a master’s degree in mental health counseling, volunteering and working in treatment centers while continuing to train and develop herself.

After many years of serving her clients, she discovered she was ready to disrupt the ordinary once again. While reading Jack Canfield’s book The Success Principles, she created an ambitious vision for her life. She declared her desire to challenge herself in new ways and make a difference for people on a larger scale.

Early in 2008, Kristen was inspired to write Waiting for Jack. Jumping into action, she began to explore our tendency to wait and what it means to be human.

In June of 2008, Kristen attended Book Expo America with 37,000 other people. Ready to propel her success to the next level, Kristen embraced the principles she shares in her book. Through a series of simple actions and her sincere commitment, she left the expo with a powerful agent, a New York publisher, and the enthusiastic support of Jack Canfield, who agreed to write the foreword to this book. By August, Kristen began her weekly internet radio show, “What Are You Waiting For?” creating a dynamic conversation with expert guests (Joan Borysenko, Bob Doyle, Janet Attwood and Gary Goldstein, to name a few) about disrupting the ordinary and creating the extraordinary.

Kristen utilizes her awe-inspiring energy and motivation to bring awareness to heartfelt causes. She serves as a celebrity ambassador to the National Eating Disorder Association, and through her own non-profit, The Chick-a-go Foundation, provides “pay it forward” scholarships for people to attend transformational educational events.

Her mission for the world is that we “fiercely disrupt our ordinary,” whatever the expression. Most importantly, Kristen wishes that we embrace what it means to be human—we will wait, we will seek, we will forget who we are, and we will remember. She wants us to know it’s all okay.

When she is not actively making a difference in the world, Kristen Moeller thrives in the beauty of Colorado, playing outdoors, riding her horse or just spending time relaxing in her magical, solar powered home. She lives with two large dogs, an ornery cat, and her best friend and husband of fourteen years.

About the Author

Kristen R. Moeller is a highly respected coach, author, speaker and radio show host who holds a master’s degree in counseling and has more than 20 years experience in the field of personal development. She is a founder of the non-profit Chick-a-go Foundation, which provides “pay-it-forward” scholarships for transformational educational training programs reaching people who otherwise cannot afford such opportunities. Ms. Moeller also hosts a weekly internet radio show, “What Are You Waiting For?” and is a celebrity ambassador to the National Eating Disorder Association. She resides in Colorado with her husband in an eco-friendly solar powered house. 

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Taylor Morris – Advocating for those with Asperger’s Syndrome

On Monday September 20, 2010, at 7pm EST, Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, herself an adult woman with Asperger’s Syndrome interviewed Taylor Morris, who is a 17 year old young woman with High Functioning Autism, as well as a straight A student, and advocate for Autism and Asperger’s Syndrome.

Taylor is very articulate young woman and she has made several video. She has an incredible following of her videos. Taylor describes and explains a lot about her experience in life as someone with Asperger’s Syndrome in ways that can help people with Asperger’s better understand it and also helped their loved ones better understand. The more we can understand and respect each other across the differences of what it means to be a “neurotypical” or a person with Asperger’s Syndrome the richer all of our lives will be.

Asperger’s Syndrome, as I know from my own life, and as I stress on my own Aspergers and Adults website is a different abilitynot a disability. It brings with it challenges, but, also many blessings and gifts. Please watch some of Taylor’s videos below and read the post re-posted here from her blog at Meet Taylor Morris, entitled, “My Social World: Inside an Autistic’s Psyche”

© A.J. Mahari, September 10, 2010

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My Social World: Inside an Autistic’s Psyche

By Taylor Morris

Just before class I hear a necklace jingle around the neck of a pretty girl. She is gossiping with another pretty girl, who is twirling her pretty hair and talking about the awesome party where some other pretty girl ruined her dress with a beer stain. At the other end of the class, I listen to yet another pretty girl complain to her pretty best friend about how her make-up wasn’t done just right — she is not pretty enough. Meanwhile I’m on my own, at my desk, looking at my calloused hands and unkempt nails thinking: “The jewelry, the hair, the clothes and the make–up — it’s all their social games. Their value, their conversations, their lives. How do they devote so much time and money to that? How do they know just what to say to get “groupies” to follow them?” I sigh and shake my head, thinking of how I don’t own a dress, how I wear the same earrings every day, and how I never seem to understand when they speak in what seems like code. With this, I’m once again reminded of how I’m an unwitting member of a social “game” I don’t really know how to play. Having an Aspie mind is a hard-enough social challenge; add to that the complexities of a high school girl’s social world and hierarchy and you have just added insult to injury.

Over the years I have learned to associate the word “social” with scenes like these. I never have understood the social culture people practice. I just don’t have the ability to “sense” like neurotypicals because my thoughts are literal, not intuitive. My mind is heuristic, so I behave in accordance with what I see and directly experience. I can’t “sense” whether or not I’m winning over a person. I have to wait and see how they treat me in the weeks after I have met them. This creates a whole new challenge in meeting people and making friends, especially girlfriends.

However, I have learned to use my style of mind to my advantage. For example, I use heuristics to decide which people I should and should not try to be-friend. I know from experience that girls who hang out in large groups of other girls tend to be mean to me. Because of this, I know to not try to connect with them. Same goes for girls who wear shirts worth more then my earrings, girls who wear more make-up in a day than I do in a year, and those who match their entire outfit a bit too perfectly. This may seem ridiculous because everyone knows someone who wears a mountain of make-up but is still very nice. Even so, over the years I have found that these heuristics work well. Many of the people I have excluded often did end up being the exact kind of people I want to avoid. I know these “rules” in deciding who I will try to interact with are polarizing to an extent, but they are how I have used my mind to find my way through a social game. Using this method, I have successfully identified girls who became my best friends. They don’t judge me for being slightly different and don’t hold it against me for not having the best sense of style. They have judged me by my character, and that is all I ever really wanted.


Mother of BPD Daughter her Experience With the Mental Health System

Do you have a loved one with Borderline Personality Disorder? Do you have a loved one with a mental illness? Are you worried about a loved one with BPD or other form of diagnosed “mental illness” who is on a lot of psychiatric medication and who isn’t feeling any better or getting better? What can be done about the notion put across as “science” that psychiatric meds are the answer to mental distress? Psychiatric medication is not the answer to human distress. It is the inhumane abuse, not even treatment, of people in a disempowering and unethical way that dehumanizes their distress, pain, and suffering and pathologizes it without even considering a compassionate caring response that makes room for the context within which people’s mental/emotional distress arises.

Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, interviewed, Kristin Ulland, a mother of a daughter who was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder among other things and who ended up becoming a victim of the mental health system and biopsychiatry, “the medical model of psychiatry”, when she was given a lot of psychiatric medications. Her daughter’s journey was, of course, shared by her mother who has had to come to term with her feelings of guilt for having trusted the profession of psychiatry.

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Kristin Ulland is the mother of a daughter who was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. She has a very informative blog at where she writes about her journey with her daughter and what she has learned from all of her experience. Just recently, Kristin has become, as she describes it, “anti-psychiatry” but not anti-psychology. Kristin is not into the “medical model of psychiatry” (biopsychiatry) or drug “treatment” anymore. Listen to Kristin explain why in this interview. My daughter has borderline personality disorder. I plan to share the story of how we struggled with her illness while searching for help. In dealing with this I found that borderline is not only treatment-resistant but that it is often misdiagnosed. I was frustrated by the unreliable treatments offered and the lack of discussion.

Kristin is now an advocate for others and wants to help raise awareness of what is going on with biopsychiatry and the psychiatric drugs being viewed as the answer or way to wellness. She is an active blogger on her site at


Stop Overreacting – Effective Strategies For Calming Your Emotions

On Wednesday September 1, 2010, Life Coach, A.J. Mahari interviewed Dr. Judith Siegel, Ph.D., LCSW, who has a new book out called, Stop Overreacting – Effective Strategies For Calming Your Emotions, on her Psyche Whisperer Radio Show.

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Dr. Siegel’s book offers important skills for coping with intense and overwhelming emotions without overreacting, withdrawing, lashing out or raging. Stop Overreacting – Effective Strategies For Calming Your Emotions, addresses topics such as Learning to Talk about Feelings, Envy, Criticism and Sharing Control will be offered. There will also be quizzes about areas related to overeacting such as splitting and narcissism. A.J. Mahari offers her opinion to perspective show listeners and future readers of Dr. Siegel’s book – “It is an amazing book chalk full of helpful information. Information on how to more effectively manage your emotions in situations in your life whether you have been diagnosed with mental illness or not. Many don’t agree with some of the “brain science” or “brain studies” and how they are represented as solid science in what many consider to be a lack of sound scientific evidence. However, that said, whether you agree or not with the brain/biology forwarded explanations of many of our thoughts and emotions, some of which this author uses as a framework of some of her points, there is much more to this book than a few places of such references and said context for explaining human emotions. Everyone, absolutely everyone can benefit from reading this book. There is so much information that is explained very clearly and is not laden with psychological jargon. I highly recommend this book to and for everyone.”

Dr Siegel’s new book is title Stop Overreacting is now available. Her earlier book What Children Learn From Their Parents Marriage has been published in five languages.

Dr. Judith P. Siegel, Ph.D., LCSW

Dr Siegel has trained social workers and family therapists for the past twenty five years.  Her scholarship draws from Object Relations and Family Systems theories as well as the recent developments in Neurobiology.  She has written books and journal articles for the general public as well as Graduate Professionals and believes that people can find inspiration to improve their relationships from many sources.  

Dr. Siegel is a tenured Associate Professor at the New York University Silver School of Social Work and is Co-Director of the Post Graduate Certificate Program in Child and Family Therapy. She has appeared on Good Morning America and The Today Show, and has spoken to professional audiences and parenting groups throughout the United States. or Stop Overreating

Stop Overreacting – Effective Strategies for Calming Your Emotions, Dr. Judith Siegel, Ph.D., LCSW, presents some of the most effective methods to curb overreactions within the everyday realms of family, relationships and the workplace.

Tips To Curb Emotional Overreactions

Be confident.

Confidence propels us to seek control while self-doubt leads us to defer control to others. On the other hand, when we believe no one is in control we may feel a sense of panic, which can often trigger overreactions.
Give your emotions a name.

The process of naming emotions can stimulate the circuits connecting the left and right-brain, which allow us to see situations in terms of both what we know and what we feel.

Don’t Detach.

While self-confidence helps us establish control, taking a passive stance and relying on the capabilities of others can instill a feeling of powerlessness. This perceived lack of influence over a situation’s outcome sets the stage for overreaction triggered by rage and/or defeat.

Develop mind-body awareness.

Be aware of subtle physical responses that occur during emotional experiences. Focusing on physical sensations can alert you to an impending storm if you know how to read your radar map.

Consider the consequences.
Searching stored memory for lessons we may have learned activates the higher areas of the brain which we use to be calculative in our actions. Take a stroll down memory lane. The personal values we acquire during childhood play a key role in what can trigger our emotions as adults. By taking time to think about the qualities that you observed and reacted to growing up, you’ll be aware when these values are challenged and why it bothers you.

Practice what you preach: Share.

When we never let others take over we make life more stressful than it needs to be. As a part of a family unit or partnership, difficulty sharing can inspire us to use force or questionable tactics to maintain full control, leading to mistrust and jealousy; both known to trigger overreaction.

Not all emotional reactions are overreactions. Stop Overreacting offers some questions to ask yourself to determine if they are:

What is Overreaction?

  • • Do you regret things you say or do in the heat of emotion?
    • Do you lash out at loved ones?
    • Do you have to apologize to others for your actions or words?
    • Do you feel surprised at your seemingly uncontrollable
    • Do you assume the worst about situations or people?
    • Do you find yourself in conflict without knowing how you got

3 Factors of Overreaction

  • Schemas, or stories we attach to our relationships, ourselves and events which help us to understand the world, but can also lead to biases, distorted understanding, and knee-jerk reactions to situations.
  • Splitting, or the oversimplification of situations as either ‘all good’ or ‘all bad’.
  • Flooding, or a re-experiencing of raw emotion (stored in our memory from initial experiences that encoded the schema) triggered by particularly resonant schemas and resultant splitting.

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Humane Psychiatry – Dr. Dan L. Edmunds

Life Coach, and author, A.J. Mahari, interviewed Dr. Dan L. Edmunds on the Psyche Whisperer Radio Show Monday August 30 at 7pm EST. Biopsychiatry violates the first oath and ethic of medicine for all doctors, including psychiatrists, “first do no harm”. Dr. Dan L. Edmunds views biopsychiatry as “supposed treatment” and doesn’t believe in the common pratice of using toxic psychiatric drugs and especially when it come to children who are then made life-time psychiatric patients. He maintains it is cheaper to “treat” with drugs rather than actually address the reasons for patient’s distress. He believes that science and ethics must become consistent and that the entire mental health system needs to be deconstructed. The medical model needs to replaced with a model of compassion. Maybe then, we can have a humane system wherein abused of the past and current abuses could become things of the past.

This episode is now available below

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Dr. Dan L. Edmunds

Professor Dr. Dan L. Edmunds is a radical psychotherapist, a friend and advocate of psychiatric survivors, and a critic of the mental health establishment.

Dr. Edmunds is a voice for the marginalized and for the many who lack a voice within the psychiatric system. A person of deep compassion and principle, Dr. Edmunds is a noted psychotherapist, child development/behavioral specialist, Comparative Religion scholar, sociologist and counselor working with both children and adults.

Dr. Edmunds speaks truthfully and directly and has posed critical questions to the psychiatric establishment and to society as a whole. He has developed approaches towards helping distressed individuals that are compassionate and empowering and encourage self-determination and autonomy. He has been an advocate for social justice, informed consent, and for human rights in the mental health system.

Dr. Edmunds has become deeply concerned with the medicalization of human experience and how mental health services have often become ‘mechanical’, not seeking to truly be caring and empathic, limiting consumer choice, and often not providing informed consent. He has sought for care that is recognizes people’s experience and treats them as people, care that is holistic,which recognizes the mind-body-spirit connection, and which takes into account issues of social injustice and how they impact our emotional well being and often shape our possibilities and who we become. Dr. Edmunds has challenged the mental health system establishment to respect persons experience and once again a common healing ground betwen the therapist and client. His writings have often focused on the need for building of community, holistic approaches, and the role of the family as well as social and political processes that lead towards emotional distress. He has challenged stigmatizing labels and exposed the violence that is often inflicted upon individuals by those who claim to be in the role of ‘helper’. He encouraged a mental health system which does not force people into treatments that they do not want, which respects their dignity, and which allows their experience to be heard and validated.

Dr. Dan L. Edmunds has a blog at:

Dr. Dan L. Edmunds is the author of the following books available at: His Site Storefront and more books at his Storefront









POST PSYCHIATRY JOURNAL – Center for Meaning and Relationship POST PSYCHIATRY JOURNAL – Center for Meaning and Relationship. A compilation of articles from mental health professionals and psychiatric survivors challenging the bio-psychiatric paradigm.








CHILDREN OUR TREASURE: Meeting Our Children’s True Needs Outside of the Bio-Psychiatric Paradigm CHILDREN OUR TREASURE: Meeting Our Children’s True Needs Outside of the Bio-Psychiatric Paradigm (book) – History of psychiatry, exploring psychiatric human rights abuses and the impact of psychiatry on children. Offers way to create a more humane mental health system.








EXPERIENCE: THE SOUL OF THERAPY EXPERIENCE: THE SOUL OF THERAPY – Exploring the the importance of experience in the therapeutic process.

Dr. Edmunds has been interviewed on local and nationally syndicated radio programs in regards to these important issues.

Dr. Edmunds was born in Tampa, Florida and spent much of adolescent years in Fort Collins, Colorado where he graduated from Fort Collins High School. From his youth, he became active in community and civic affairs and social and political change. Dr. Edmunds seeks for a society that places people before profits and treats all with compassion and equanimity. He served as a director of the Students for Peace and Justice and was involved in various political campaigns as a teen. In 1991, he served as the youngest legislative aide in the Colorado State Senate, serving in the office of State Senator (later U.S. Representative) Robert W. Schaffer. He later became the youngest registered professional lobbyist, being registered in the States of Colorado, Wyoming, and Arizona. He was a volunteer for the Larimer County, Colorado Office of Veterans Affairs. In 1992, he obtained the permission of then Mayor Nicholas Fortunato to develop the Ormond Beach, Florida Youth Commission. He served as a county campaign coordinator for U.S. Representative Corrine Brown’s campaign in 1992. This accorded him the opportunity to transport Martin Luther King III, the son of the slain civil rights leader, to an event at Bethune Cookman College and exposed him to diversity, civil rights, and social justice concerns. As a public intellectual and left libertarian, Dr. Edmunds continues to remain active in political and civic affairs and encouraging a society that is based on equality, peace, and justice. In 2008, Dr. Edmunds organized the Humanist Center for Freethought and Social Activism in order to encourage an end to oppression, ecological responsibility, freedom, equality, and respect for diversity.

Dr. Edmunds is on the Board of Advisors for the Society for Laingian Studies. The Society for Laingian Studies is directed by Dr. Brent Potter and includes advisors who had direct collaboration with Dr. R.D. Laing such as Andrew Feldmar and Theodore Itten. The Society for Laingian Studies seeks to further the humane approaches towards understanding and helping distressed persons that was begun by Dr. R.D. Laing. Society for Laingian Studies


Dr. Dan L. Edmunds, Ed.D.,B.C.S.A.
Tunkhannock, Pennsylvania, USA